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13 tháng 12 2019

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Nguồn : https://blog.collegevine.com/parents-help-your-teen-be-more-independent/

Parents: Help Your Teen Be More Independent

Independence is exciting for teens, and most of them are itching to do whatever they want. As adults, we have learned that independence is more like a double-edged sword of freedom and responsibility. Here’s how you can guide your high schooler to being successfully independent.

Why Should Your Teen Be Independent

Many students (including high-achieving students) love the freedom they experience in college and they respond by letting it completely overtake them. Some students sober up when the first round of exam scores come out and their grades aren’t what they’re used to, but for others it takes poor performance in their first semester before they realize they need to figure out a better solution. If your child learns how to be independent in high school, they’ll be better equipped to balance both exhilarating freedom and mundane responsibility.

However, so many freshmen students enter college without having been responsible for themselves. They are used to their parents taking care of their problems, setting their schedules, hounding them to study, and they flounder without the external support. Independence helps your student develop an internal reserve to take on life’s challenges.

We hope you want your child to be able to take care of themselves to the best of their ability. If your teen currently relies on you to do everything for them (or to tell them what to do) then they might be too dependent on you. If they are, we have a few ideas for how they can gradually develop more independence later on in this post.

Your Teen’s Independence and College

Independence extends to all realms of life, and helping your teenager learn some level of independence will help them in areas beyond just college. After all, college is a relatively small part of a person’s life, and it would be wrong to say that independence only matters in college.

That said, helping your higher schooler develop independence early in life will give them a huge advantage over other students when it comes to college applications and being in college. When your teen is independent, they will take the initiative in shaping their life, such as finding and pursuing extracurricular opportunities that they are genuinely excited about, researching and developing a strong school list, and keeping track of application requirements.

For a very concrete example of why your high schooler should have some basic level of independence, let me tell you about FERPA, or the Family Education Rights and Privacy Act. FERPA protects student privacy, and a significant change occurs the instant your child applies to college: you will not have access to their college record.

I explain FERPA to parents almost as often as I explain admissions requirements. Your child’s college application is protected by FERPA; parents are considered “third parties,” which means that information about the application—such as making sure that it’s complete, or that the admissions office received updated materials—can only be given to the applicant.

Once your student enrolls in any college, all of their records are protected by FERPA. If your student is struggling or if there are any issues with their degree requirements or financial aid, all communication will go to your student. This means that your teen should be responsible enough to check their email(s) and phone and be proactive enough to schedule appointments and follow-up on any issues they may have.

Independence will also help your teen adjust to life in a new place, make new friends, and seek out opportunities while in college. If you don’t feel that your child is ready for this level of independence, then the best thing you can do is gradually give them greater independence while in high school. It’s better to let them make small mistakes while you can still guide them and correct their approach.

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Rather than expecting your child to suddenly take care of everything on their own, it’s better to do it gradually. Here are a few strategies you can try.

Let them decide

Whether it’s how to spend their time or their money, giving your child control over a portion of their life will help both of you in the long run. As long as their decisions aren’t harmful, honor their decisions and let them go with it.

If you aren’t ready to let them make a lot of decisions, try this exercise: instead of telling them they need to do something right now, ask them to complete a task (it can be a chore like cleaning their room) and they have the weekend to do it. They might procrastinate until Sunday night to clean their room, but they might surprise you by “getting it over with” so they can enjoy their weekend! Either way, letting them decide when to do something is a good first step.

Show them the ropes

Many schools have some sort of peer-mentoring program to help freshmen acclimate to college. I did this as a senior and told a group of freshmen that they could ask me anything. After the meeting was over, one of the freshmen asked me, in private, if I could explain how to do laundry.

If your student doesn’t know how to do cook or clean, you can start by showing your student how to do these tasks, and once they’ve got the hang of it you can set expectations about when they’ll do it. Knowing how to navigate a laundromat, boil water for rice or pasta, find things in a grocery store—this can be foreign territory for students. Pick a few to teach your student, and supervise them until they’ve got the hang of it before picking other skills to share with them.

Practice failure

It would be nice if we could go through life being perfect shining successes, but we have all made mistakes and likely will continue to. Your child is no different, and being able to bounce back after disappointment will do more for them than trying to take responsibility to “fix” their problems for them.

To practice failure “safely,” encourage your child to pursue something new or something they care about. (For bonus points, let them decide what they want to pursue.) They may find they don’t like an activity, and you can teach them that it’s good to try new things and if they don’t end up liking it, they can always stop. If there is something they’re already involved in, see if you can research (together!) opportunities like advanced classes, community seminars, or competitions.

The point isn’t to achieve a particular result, but to show your student that they should pursue their interests and that experiencing setbacks is normal. This will benefit them in college when they’re likely to apply for more opportunities and join clubs.

Challenges of Increasing Independence

If you got to this point and have been thinking, “This makes sense but it sounds terrifying,” then you’re not alone. Giving your child greater independence as they mature is one of the biggest challenges that you face as a parent. There is no one solution that will fit every parent-child relationship, but we hope we’ve given you some ideas for how you can start.

Many parents want their children to be safe and happy. In order to accomplish the first, some parents want to stay in control of their children’s lives, planning their days, taking care of any problems, even deciding where their child should go to college and what they should study. When taken to the extreme, you may end up sacrificing your child’s happiness.

As intimidating as it may be, if you want your child to experience greater life satisfaction, then it’s important that you let them have control over their lives. While they are in high school, you don’t have to give up all control, but if you guide your child to independence, they will thank you when they adjust to college more gracefully than their peers.

Another way that you can learn how to give up control is to build a network of support that you trust. When you work with CollegeVine, we match your child with a college student from a top institution, and they get a personalized high school roadmap that helps them achieve their goals. Learn more about our Early Advising Program for 9th and 10th graders.

22 tháng 12 2020

Topic 1: Talk about a problem that you have had at school or at home.

Everyone has had a problem and I am not an exception. I suffered from the pressure and stress of learning. I was not good at English, actually, my latest English test grade was not good. My parents were disappointed in me. I felt so sad and had negative thinking about myself. I think the reason maybe lack of motivation. Luckily, I got some advice from my best friend. He is very good at English. First, in English classes, I should pay attention to what the teacher said and remember its content, then practice. I can ask him to practise speaking English, also the teachers. Second, maybe I could find a tutor to teach me at home or go to an English center. Last, I should try to study harder. I ought to rewrite and remember new words and grammar whenever I have free time. Finally, my grades were better thanks to my best friend as well as my effort.

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15 tháng 10 2021

Everyone has had a problem and I am not an exception. I suffered from the pressure and stress of learning. I was not good at English, actually, my latest English test grade was not good. My parents were disappointed in me. I felt so sad and had negative thinking about myself. I think the reason maybe lack of motivation. Luckily, I got some advice from my best friend. He is very good at English. First, in English classes, I should pay attention to what the teacher said and remember its content, then practice. I can ask him to practise speaking English, also the teachers. Second, maybe I could find a tutor to teach me at home or go to an English center. Last, I should try to study harder. I ought to rewrite and remember new words and grammar whenever I have free time. Finally, my grades were better thanks to my best friend as well as my effort.

The first skill that you need to develop in order to be independent is finding information. When you are able to find information by yourself, you will be able to think independently and make informed decisions. Getting around on your own is the second important skill for you. Getting to know how to go around will help you not depend on others to go to places and take responsibility for being late. The last skill that makes you become independent is coping with loneliness. Lacking these skills may make you feel depressed and you may make the wrong decisions on your life.

10 tháng 12 2023

Nowadays, almost teenagers will get hard when they move out for the first time. That's because they can't live independently and don't have any characteristics to become independent. But with the rest, they are already have it when still living at home so when they move out, they won't get hard like the other. So today, i want to tell you some characteristics that a teenagers should have to become independent.

The first one is confident to do anything without needing help from the other. When teenagers move to to live independently in the first time, they must deal with problems or work on their own,and of course, no one will help them. So from now, they should have this characteristic by do chores by their own without anyone reminding or helping.

The second one is self-determination. That's a person's ability to make choices and manage their own life. When move out, teenagers have to decide their choices by their own, they must manage their own life, can't allow anyone to decide for them. 

To sum up, become independent with teenagers are kindly hard. But they must do this, they can't dependently on their parents and become independent can help them growth and development, financial stability, self-sufficiency, creativity, and happiness for themselves. So teenagers should prepare by try to have these characteristics

 

10 tháng 12 2023

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22 tháng 12 2022

1. I have join voluntary activities about 3 months ago. Because I think it is very interesting.
2. Because I can joined in outdoor activities.
3. I made a charity where everyone can donate some of their money to help the poor and disadvantaged people.
4. I feel very happy when I help them.

22 tháng 12 2022

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9 tháng 9 2023

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I think I’ll become more independent by learning to cook for myself. It’s very expensive and unhealthy to eat out frequently. Besides, the food in the country where I’ll be studying may not suit me, so it’d be nice if I could prepare dishes from my own country.

30 tháng 8 2023

In my opinion, comparing children's experiences today to those of their parents is not a good idea. Although parents may have good intentions, this approach can have negative effects on children's confidence and self-esteem. Children may feel pressured to live up to their parents' expectations, leading to feelings of inadequacy and frustration. Furthermore, each generation is influenced by changes in society, making it difficult for parents and children to fully understand each other's way of thinking. Instead of comparisons, parents should focus on building a positive and supportive relationship with their children, which includes good communication and spending quality time together. They can also set good examples of behavior and explain why certain behaviors are desirable. Children are more likely to learn and internalize positive behaviors when they are taught in a supportive and positive environment, rather than through comparisons that can be damaging to their confidence and self-esteem.

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Quoc Tran Anh Le
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16 tháng 9 2023

The text mentions three essential skills required for teenagers to become independent, which are decision-making skills, time-management skills, and life skills.

Apart from the skills mentioned in the text, some other skills teenagers need to become independent include communication skills, problem-solving skills, financial management skills, goal-setting skills, and critical thinking skills. Also, teenagers need to learn how to be emotionally intelligent and how to develop positive relationships with others.